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Debbie, a foster carer in South Essex, and Lauren, who lived with Debbie for 10 years shares their story
As her own children were growing up, Debbie became a foster carer.
“I’ve always loved children. I was often the babysitter growing up and loved being a mum later in life," explained Debbie. "As my own children grew up and became more independent, I felt I wasn’t ready for that part of my life to be over."
Fostering is a flexible role, which suited Debbie
“As a family, we discussed fostering and adopting but decided to foster. We wanted to help as many children as possible.
There are different fostering options to suit different families. We decided to start with fostering for a couple of weekends a month and during school holidays. It’s a good option to start with and see how you get on."
With part-time fostering options available, you can continue working flexibly in another job. Many foster carers start with respite foster care, including Jenn and Hayley.
Now, Debbie is a full-time foster carer, and remembers Lauren joining her family
“Being approved as foster carers felt amazing. It was so exciting that we were going to start supporting children who needed it. We welcomed Lauren into our family, she was with us for over 10 years and we’re still in touch.
"Now, she’s graduated from university and is a social worker. Lauren wants to help other children in care, and we couldn't be prouder.
"That right there is why we foster. To help and support children who may not have had the best start in life to achieve their best. We give them the chance to enjoy their childhood, to feel cared for and valued.”
Lauren also shared her experience, of growing up in foster care
“I have grown up with Debbie and her family. They helped me accept and grieve the loss of my mum. She took a genuine interest in my life, supporting me through school and university.
She has completely shaped my life and helped me get to where I want to be. Fostering is not just a career. It’s a lifestyle choice and it can change a child’s life so much if you have the passion and love to give.”
Lauren is passionate about using her experience to support other young people. Charlotte, another care leaver, feels the same. Charlotte and her foster mum Cara also shared their experience.
Finally, what would Debbie say to anyone thinking of fostering?
"You will not regret fostering. Of course, it may be hard and challenging at times. But I go to bed knowing I’m making a difference to children who need support, it’s just so rewarding.
“My only regret is that I didn’t start fostering sooner, but there is no age barrier to fostering. All you need to foster is to be 21 years old, have a spare bedroom and love in your heart to help these children.
“Fostering has 100% changed all our lives for the better. We’re better people because of fostering as it’s made us more patient and appreciate each other a lot more.”