My foster carers did what any normal parent does and gave me stability

Now in his 20's, Josh was fostered when he was 8. His foster carers Iain and Karen have become his family, along with their birth children. Josh is ready to tell his story, and share how fostering changed his life.

Josh,from Basildon, went into foster care when he was 8 years old. He shares how he excelled at school and developed a successful career after slotting straight into his foster family.

"I was 8 years old when I first went into foster care. I don’t remember a great deal, other than just standing there with my possessions in a black bin bag.

It was all rather traumatic, and I didn’t understand why I couldn’t be with my parents. Although I was with my older brother it was an extremely daunting experience. So much so, I ran away on the first night.

To start with, I had a connection to my old life, by keeping in contact with my birth parents, who had separated. I figured. 'they're still your parents, regardless of what they do.'

It has taken me a long time to feel comfortable talking about it. My dad was an alcoholic and my mum had mental health issues. Dad died when I was 11, my mum when I was 16.

At the age of 13, I was separated from my brother and I moved into the home of Iain and Karen Cameron. I was their first foster child, but I slotted right in with their biological children.

They were there for me through the good times and the bad. And when I had a bad day, I really would have a bad day! I was carrying a lot of baggage.

I tried counselling but it wasn’t quite right for me. I would often just sit and talk with Iain. 

There was no judgement. He reassured me, which made things seem better. They really do feel like my parents.

Although I don’t call them "mum" and "dad", that is what they are to me. They did for me what any normal parent does and gave me stability.

Because of this I excelled at school and became a straight A student. I honestly don’t think I would have a successful career today without Iain and Karen. There is a certain level where you need to drive yourself, but the foundations were built by them.

Essex County Council's Fostering team have also played a big part in giving me the best life, given my circumstances.

They paid for me to have a private tutor and would often pay for transport to see my mum. It showed me that there is always someone to support you; wanting to make you a better person.

The whole experience taught me it doesn’t matter what background a foster child comes from. You can dust yourself off and be put on the right path.

All kids in care need foster parents like Iain and Karen. They deserve it."

Other children have shared how their foster families have changed their lives too.

After being fostered by Cara, Charlotte is studying for a career in social work. Charlotte is passionate about using her experience, and helping other young people in care. If you could make a difference to a young person's life, get in touch to find out more.
 

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