Previously, our team have explained what sexual harmful behaviours are. We defined what this means, plus the myths and facts behind it. We should remember, behaviours and risks should be assessed independently.
Key concepts to address harmful sexual behaviours
We assess behaviours, and associated risks, on an independent basis. To make sure we are effectively addressing harmful sexual behaviours, we teach these concepts.
- Privacy, boundaries & personal space
- OK and Not OK secrets
- Types of relationships
- Meaningful consent
- Respect
- What is abuse
- The law, consequences, and moral issues
- Potential risks & risky behaviour
How the young person's social worker will help
There will be different ways, depending on the young person.
This could include:
- Creating a safety plan at home – who is allowed to sleep where, which doors remain open or closed for example
- Supporting schools with risk assessments
- Having open and honest conversations with the young person
- Educating the young person on puberty, bodies and sex
- Helping the young person understand about boundaries
- Supporting you as the foster carer in how to help the young person
- Helping to work out the route cause of this behaviour
Most of the work will be undertaken by the child's support team
As a foster carer, you have an important role in helping the child understand, adapt and manage their harmful behaviour. Speaking to professionals, and the child's social worker, is key. Everyone needs to be on the same page, so the young person feels understood.
Always remember to ask your supervising social worker, and the child's social worker for help. You are not alone. You are not expected to deal with issues around harmful sexual behaviour by yourself.
Ways you can support:
Work with the Child: It is important to try and work with the child and the behaviour, not just focus on the behaviour.
Open Dialogue: Maintain open dialogue with the child about any plans put in place to support them.
Reflect on Impact: Take some time to reflect on the impact of the behaviours on you and anyone who may be involved.
Seek Professional Advice: Seek advice from professionals if you feel unsure. If you don’t know, ask!
Learn more about therapeutic fostering
Our team of mental health co-ordinators and clinicians have shared resources around therapeutic fostering. If you need any help, or further details, please speak to your supervising social worker (SSW) who can refer you.